okay first off, if you know me in real life, you probably know that I have a habit of talking about people while they’re still in earshot, usually unbeknownst to me. I tend to be incredibly judgemental and I am really trying to work on that. So when my health coach, Stevie, recommended I read Gabrielle Bernstein, I started off with her book The Universe Has Your Back — which you can read more about my take on here. And I fell in love with what she was saying but I don’t think I was at a point in my life to fully accept what her book was trying to teach, unfortunately.
Fast forward some amount of time and I picked up Bernstein’s new book called Judgement Detox: Release the Beliefs that Hold You Back from Living a Better Life and i was intrigued. I didn’t read it until recently when I really felt like I could harness her teachings and incorporate them into my daily routine. I’m becoming more & more whoo whoo and I couldn’t be more stoked about it.
If you’re not familiar with Gabrielle Bernstein, she’s a spiritual guru, life coach and author who specializes in spirituality. You can learn more here.
I read it pretty quickly because the way Bernstein writes, it just encompasses you wholly and completely. You get engulfed in the whoo and you’re somehow totally alright with it. She isn’t condescending at all and even admits her own faults while trying to live what she preaches.
The biggest takeaway I got from this book was that we all judge. We all are guilty of negative thoughts about others and even ourselves. But what really matters is how we react to that judgment and where it comes from. Is it based on the negative? Is it from love? Do we judge ourselves more harshly for judging others? And are we doing anything to curtail our judgments?
Bernstein goes onto describe 5 or so steps to detox yourself from judgment and how to address your own internal critic on a daily basis. It involves forgiveness, self-awareness, prayer, and more. I’m really looking forward to incorporating some of these steps into my own life because we all know I can be a fiercely harsh critic of myself and where I think I should be in my late 20s compared to where I actually am. And that doesn’t get anyone anywhere.
Forgiving yourself is a process that will always take work and I’m always looking for great self-help books to help me become even more awesome than before. What are some of your favourite self-help books?
Favourite Quote: Make self-forgiveness a priority.